By Diana Wei Dai
We didn’t believe the nice things we said to each other
at the same time, we took it too personally when we were being mean.
We always focused on what we want
but ignored what the other person wants.
We love them the way we want to be loved
but we never ask how they want to be loved.
The love is always there, and valid.
We put our eyes in the perfect faraway future
and the beautiful image blurred our eyes of seeing the true meaning of each other.
Of living in the moment.
We tried so hard to let the other person understand us,
but we never saw what the other person wants to express
We were hard on ourselves.
We were also being too hard on each other.
We use excuses and personal histories,
projecting the unsatisfying part of ourselves on to each other,
and then we ask;
Why it wouldn’t work?
